Wanna Raise a Whiner or a Winner

I hold strong traditional values and principles in regards to raising my children? The duty to raise disciplined and grounded children is more important to me than ever. To many parents leave it up to others, child care workers, teachers, coaches or sitters to shape their children’s believes and characters.

America is becoming more restrictive and liberal by the minute and our youth seems to enjoy and support many of these restrictions and regulations without questioning. Many of our youth have never left this land of opportunities to explore other places in the world who are much more controlled by government than we are. Having lived and traveled all over the world, I have seen much and experienced other systems.

I grew up in a traditional Austrian family with strong traditional values and principles taught by my parents and grandparents. My parents were by no means authoritarian, but they knew how to to say NO. And NO was respected. I hold many of these traditional values and my principles are unshakeable. I do consider myself a strong conservative and question many liberal policies and everything Liberalism tries to push on me and my family. I am determined to raise my new generation of strong conservatives who can clearly sort out wrong from rights, fake news from the truth, and who form their own opinions and thoughts. I am passing on my conservative values and principle to my children as my parents and grandparents have done before me.

I am a strong believe in teaching children to be respectful, honest and well mannered. I see every day how children are bad mannered, rude, inconsiderate, disgraceful, discourteous, uncivilized, unpolished, unrefined and intolerant. I see it in many places my children have and still do participate in sports activities. When has it become a coach’s responsibility to deal with an unruly and undisciplined child? When has it become acceptable for parents to sit a common waiting area and let their youngsters run wild, scream, throw tantrums while they are solely focused on themselves and catching up on the latest gossip? You get the point. It starts with the parents and ends with the parents.

And yes, it bothers me when I see college students burn and destroy property and hurt people because they don’t agree with another view point. When this happens, we as parents, faile our children miserably. They become whiners acting out, instead of finding solutions and working together to improve situations. They cry over everything that does not go their way and expect someone else to fix it. They are enabled by institutions and faculty and told “it’s OK” to whine, scream and throw temper tantrums. Sure is easier than engaging the brain and be productive right?

And yes, I do blame parents for how their children turn out. The simple fact is: “You made ’em, you own ’em.” I own everything my children do, and you own yours. The only way to raise and turn our children into successful members of society is to be and stay involved and know what is going on.

While I am not one to attend church regularly, I strongly believe in God and that he has to play a Role in children’s lives. I am convinced if God is missing or denied, there is no hope, no goodness, no faith and no future. Patriotism, Respect and Strong Conservative Core Values are the key to keep children on the right track and to raise them to be upstanding, respectful and productive adults. I want my children to work hard and to achieve what they desire on their own. My children already realized that being independent is much more fun than being told what to do or not to do.

 

My goal as a parent is for my children to morph into independent individuals with strong opinions, values and principles. In believe Individualism. Collectivism has its part but you have to learn to stand on your own two feet and not rely on others. I was taught to work smart and hard, to save money and to live within my means. I was taught by example how hard work will pay off.

Entitlement mentality was not permitted in my family. You are not entitled to anything.  You work for what you want. Nobody owes you anything. You owe it to yourself to be productive and not to be a burden to others and society. I call it self respect. Respecting yourself means to be responsible for your future and destiny.

I don’t need advise on how to raise my children right, I just remember my upbringing and how my parents and grandparents raised me. I turned out pretty good, so they had to have done something right. I do enjoy however, reading parenting books that are experienced based, exciting and fun. I’ve taken some tips from Doug’s play book before, especially when it comes to raising my daughter.

Take a look at the difference of believes. Where do you fit in?

Conservative vs. Liberal

Conservatives believe in personal responsibility, limited government, free markets, individual liberty, traditional American values and a strong national defense. Conservatives believe the role of government should be to provide people the freedom necessary to pursue their own goals. Conservative policies generally empower the individual to solve problems themselves.

Liberals believe in government action and policies to achieve equal opportunity and equality for all. Liberals believe it is the duty of the government to combat social ills and to ensure equality for all. Liberals believe the role of the government should be to guarantee that no one is in need and that government is the answer to everything. Liberal policies generally emphasize the need for the government to solve problems. Liberals believe in open borders, illegal immigration and opportunity for all except for hard working rich evil people. Liberals believe a secular America is preferable to a God-centered one, that multiculturalism should replace the unifying American identity, that equality trumps liberty, that a marriage before God should be regarded the same as a Union of two same gendered persons and that that America has always been an imperialist, racist, and xenophobic nation.

Nothing much about Liberalism is attractive to me at this point. What about you? What so you believe in. How do you want to see your children turn out? Be proactive, teach good and solid values and principles and raise a self confident, respectful and strong child to lead this country in the future and save it from further decline.

There is much more that can unite us than divide us if we are tolerant of everyone’s viewpoints and believes. Respect, acceptance and tolerance is the key to getting along.